If you are not able to make a personal visit during the planned services there are many other ways to express your sympathy:
E-mail. E-mail is appropriate from those who are not intimate with the family such as a business associate or a former neighbor. The family will appreciate your message of concern.
Food for the family. The most welcome gift at this time is food. Also, there may be several visitors in the house who need to be fed. During the days immediately following the death, substantial dishes that require little preparation other than reheating are appropriate.
Mass Cards. If the deceased was Catholic, some people will send a mass card instead or in addition to flowers. Catholics and non- Catholics may arrange for a mass to be said for the deceased. It is also appropriate to arrange a mass on the anniversary of the death.
Memorial Gifts. A memorial gift is always appropriate, especially when the family has requested such a gift in lieu of flowers. Usually the family will designate a specific organization or charity. Remember to provide the family's name and address to the charity so they can send proper notification. It is acceptable to mention your gift in a sympathy note without mentioning the amount of the gift.
Phone Calls. If you live out-of-town you should telephone as soon as possible to offer your sympathy. Keep the call brief, since others will probably be trying to call as well.
Sympathy Card. A sympathy card mailed to the family is a way to let them know you are thinking about them. If you are unsure of the address mail it to us at J. Levy & Termini Funeral Home, 2128 Broadway, Galveston, Texas 77550, and we will forward it to the deceased's family.
After the Service. Many times families will need assistance after things begin to "settle down." Acts of kindness such as mowing the grass, purchasing groceries, changing the oil in the car, baby sitting the children, providing a meal, providing transportation, etc. Avoid telling the family, "call me if you need anything." Most often grieving survivors do not have the energy to call and ask for help.